PROTECTION!!!!! AKA (CONDOMS)

So this post might offend a few of you, but I need to talk about it.... It's called Protection (condoms)... So, why is it that we spend millions of dollars in commercials about Condoms, and when you speak about them people get upset??? What year are we in!!! I was so sure that I was in 2013... That when you speak to others about using protection that they wouldn't look at you weird... In schools we speak to the kids about using protection to safeguard yourselves from diseases, unwanted pregnancy and many other things.. So why is it that when you are going on dates and you ask your millions of questions and one of them happens to be "do you wear condoms" the guys/or girls look at you weird??? Are we just a bunch of people that don't want to protect ourselves from others?? Are we sure that people are really not lying to us when they say that they haven't been with anyone else in a long period of time?? I mean seriously, who can you believe?? 

I decided to write this blog to let others know that it's fine to want to wear protection and that if you talk about it your not some crazy person... I've had too many of my friends go through this situation.. It's sad... You start dating someone and you are thinking about sleeping with them, and when you make the statement of "let's use a condom" they look at you like your crazy and they end it with you!! Why?? What is wrong with using one until you know that you are in a serious monogamous relationship?? Isn't it up to you if you continue to use them or not?? What is wrong with wanting to protect yourself?? I have heard from my friends, that people in the dating world use the "i can't feel anything when I wear one"!!! Really... Wow...  I know the makers of Trojan condoms make ones called "Ecstasy" they are thin, in a purple wrapper and you can't even feel them on.... So, i beg to differ on the argument of " it doesn't feel the same"... 

I totally understand if you don't want to use them, because you believe in everyone that comes in and out of your life and that's great... But there a a few of us, that need to know that there is some sort of protection covering us at that time... If we decide within ourselves in the future to not wear them, then that is our own choice... But to go out into the dating world and not want to date someone because the want to wear protection is totally absurd... To those out there who have let go of great people because they want to wear protection I say "EWWWW YOUR NASTY".... Check yourself.. If you go around sleeping with others and don't protect yourself because you feel that it isn't the same, I would be careful.. You might just be one of those that is giving others issues that they truly don't need nor want.....

So in the end, if your out there in the dating world and they person you want to date isn't into protection, then maybe you shouldn't be into them.... just saying....  

Why Settle

So, I have come to the conclusion that I have to stop settling... Can that truly be done??  I was talking to one of my closest friends and we realized that we seem to just settle.... I asked myself why?? Why do I settle for less than I deserve?? Is it because I have the "gene" that tells me that it's not right to not settle?? Or is it that it's easier to settle than to have to actually wait for the right thing to come my way??? Or am I just tired of not seeing anything that I truly like and just go for the most convenient one?? It's funny, when you start making a list of all the things that you settle at it truly does become unsettling...lol...

For me it started with people.. To begin with, I was settling because I wanted to be accepted and to have others understand me.. It sounds simple enough, but when you start to really dig deep and see why was it that I settled for ordinary it does start to bother me... Even in the dating life we start to just settle because we are tired of the dating routine... It's true... Look at your life... At any time in it did you settle?? Why did you settle?? Sometimes we settle because of loneliness, acceptance, want some sort of adult conversations, or just plain tired of the same monotonous life that we lead...

I think that part of me also settled in the daily life.. I follow the same routine over and over.. Scared of trying or starting something new.. As I begin to realize that it happens, I have to stop and see if what I am doing is what I truly want... I do say to myself if I quit settling then what I truly want should come my way... It's something that we all need to learn to do.. NOT SETTLE!! Let what we are supposed to have come our way in it's due time... Letting yourself not settle make you a little stronger.. It's like you feel that there is something inside you telling you "watch out, your about to settle"... Once you start paying attention to that voice you react and move forward... Never looking back...