Imagine going through your day without being able to text, skype, email, bbm, facebook, instagram, twitter etc etc... It's hard to believe how dependent we have become to the above mentioned items in our life... Last night, I was in a slight fender bender when my phone (that was on my lap) fell to the side of my seat right on the edge of the door.. Being that it was dark I couldn't see it.. When I went to open the door it fell face first to the ground.. So there goes my Droid!! I can't operate it at all.. What a helpless feeling... Thankfully nothing happened to my car or me.. Just the phones screen was all cracked..
Which lead me to this new post... How dependent are we on technology??? I have no idea anyone's number anymore... I can't remember what I'm doing or what I'm supposed to be doing if my phone doesn't alert me... It's incredible how dependent we are... We sit there and talk, text, email, and we can't remember anyones number!! I personally had to go thru Facebook to alert everyone that I will be without a phone until further notice.. Because I couldn't call anyone and much less do I remember their numbers...
I remember back in the day (when he had beepers) we knew everyone's number... What happened to us??? I think that the only number that I know is my work one... Because I need to know it... Needless to say, I know that I myself am a PHONE HOG... I need it, can't live without it and it sucks.... Thankfully, I was able to log in thru my laptop and email everyone that I don't have a phone...Oh and get some awesome friend to be my human wake up call, because my phone is also my alarm!! It's impossible to imagine driving, going to school, at work, at home without being connected...
I am hoping that being without a phone until mine either gets fixed or I have to purchase a new one, teaches me not to be so dependent on it.. This will be a true test of how I can try to survive on not having to be on my phone 24/7..
Tuesday, August 28, 2012
Monday, August 13, 2012
Convinience
How easy is it to be next to someone just for the mere fact that they can help you get somewhere?? Have you ever stopped to wonder why you are really with someone?? Is it because of who they are socially or where they work, or who they hang out with?? I've realized that sometimes people hang around you to see what you can do for them.. At the minute that you can't put them where they want to be or you just figure it out they get upset with you... I think that we need to accept people for who they are, and not for what they can get us...
How shallow are we becoming??? Can we not do things on our own?? Make our own name and be proud of it!! I guess that living the simple life (because I've had to), has made me realize that I don't want to be with "Convenient People"... They are just for the now.. Not for the future... It's easy to get all wrapped up in it and see that you are getting to where you want to be.. But at what cost?? Are people with you, just because you can help them get ahead?? Or are you with them for the same reason?? So ask yourself, what are you?? Are you someone that has made it on their own, through struggle, hardship, tears etc.. Or are you just getting with the first person that can get you to where you want to be??
It's an awesome feeling, when someone gets to know the real you... When they accept you for all that you are and what you can bring to the table.. Not the pretentious person that is just there because they have something to gain.. It's hard to be different and to be unique. It's easier to be just like everyone else. If your with me, I hope that it's not of "convenience".. I hope that it's because there is something deeper...
How shallow are we becoming??? Can we not do things on our own?? Make our own name and be proud of it!! I guess that living the simple life (because I've had to), has made me realize that I don't want to be with "Convenient People"... They are just for the now.. Not for the future... It's easy to get all wrapped up in it and see that you are getting to where you want to be.. But at what cost?? Are people with you, just because you can help them get ahead?? Or are you with them for the same reason?? So ask yourself, what are you?? Are you someone that has made it on their own, through struggle, hardship, tears etc.. Or are you just getting with the first person that can get you to where you want to be??
It's an awesome feeling, when someone gets to know the real you... When they accept you for all that you are and what you can bring to the table.. Not the pretentious person that is just there because they have something to gain.. It's hard to be different and to be unique. It's easier to be just like everyone else. If your with me, I hope that it's not of "convenience".. I hope that it's because there is something deeper...
Honesty
I remember the lyrics to Billy Joel's "honesty"... Everytime I hear it, it makes me feel differently.. Why is it so hard for us to be honest??? I know that we all go thru our ups and downs and that sometimes being honest is difficult.. We don't wanna hurt others with the truth and we don't want to accept the truth ourselves.. Being honest is a difficult thing to do.. I wish that we learn that even though the truth hurts it's the best policy for everyone... Sometimes, we get hurt and we tend to not say how we feel or how hurt we really are... We make a conscience decision to not say a word... Even that is not being honest... You aren't being honest with yourself on how you feel or how someone made you feel... It's difficult to sit there and vent... But once you do, the other person understands and should accept your honesty... In a way we all feel better once we have been honest.. Is it easier to lie?? Or course it is... Is it the right thing to do??? NO!! Do we do it anyway??? Of course... None of us want to say the truth if we know that it would hurt someone... What is worse, is if the person that you are lying to actually finds out the truth... I guess I rather be truthful and unhappy, than happy and lied too... Even in friendships, some people rather keep the truth to themselves in reference to how they feel about certain subjects than to hash things out... At the end of the day, if you can't be honest with yourself you can never be honest with others..
Monday, August 6, 2012
Mixed Signals
I was approached by one of my friends with a new subject.. Mixed signals... I was trying to understand what was meant by it, and I came up with this new spin on things... So, let's say that we start talking to someone... That person is really nice and we start sharing more time with them.. While you are spending time with them, you feel a certain way with them.. It's all positive, but there is always something inside you saying is this really true or is there a hidden agenda?? Why is it that we always have these feelings?? Why can't we just be free from the wondering?? Why don't we fall in love anymore?? Is it because we have been hurt so many times that we just can't for once believe!!! We all have felt that way...
We want so badly to throw caution to the wind and we just can't.... It's horrible... We should be able too.. Why can't we!!?? That imaginary magnet that keeps us from letting our heart rule our mind.. The one that tells us not to jump into anything too fast.. When all that we want to do is be free to enjoy every single emotion... We send mixed signals to ourselves on a daily basis... We should be able to express and feel the way that we want to feel.. Stop holding back, stop the trying not to show how we feel... I know the old saying "you can't show everything, because then there is nothing to look forward too"... But what happens when you feel so great with this person and you don't care!!! You just want to be with that person and share time and memories with them... Is that so bad????
The other part to this is, the person that you like and want to spend time with is giving you mixed signals. You sit there and wonder if they feel the same way that you do... What if they do!!! You are both not moving forward because your afraid of what may happen... Mixed signals are confusing... Sometimes we have a moment in time, where we feel that all this makes sense.. we need to act on it... You never get moments in time back.. Once they are gone, they are gone.. So, either you act on it or its never gonna happen at the same place in time ever again...
In the end, I think that I rather live with a broken heart (again) than to go thru life not seizing the moments. It's hard to not send mixed signals.. With a lot of work and realizing that you only live once, it's totally worth it...
We want so badly to throw caution to the wind and we just can't.... It's horrible... We should be able too.. Why can't we!!?? That imaginary magnet that keeps us from letting our heart rule our mind.. The one that tells us not to jump into anything too fast.. When all that we want to do is be free to enjoy every single emotion... We send mixed signals to ourselves on a daily basis... We should be able to express and feel the way that we want to feel.. Stop holding back, stop the trying not to show how we feel... I know the old saying "you can't show everything, because then there is nothing to look forward too"... But what happens when you feel so great with this person and you don't care!!! You just want to be with that person and share time and memories with them... Is that so bad????
The other part to this is, the person that you like and want to spend time with is giving you mixed signals. You sit there and wonder if they feel the same way that you do... What if they do!!! You are both not moving forward because your afraid of what may happen... Mixed signals are confusing... Sometimes we have a moment in time, where we feel that all this makes sense.. we need to act on it... You never get moments in time back.. Once they are gone, they are gone.. So, either you act on it or its never gonna happen at the same place in time ever again...
In the end, I think that I rather live with a broken heart (again) than to go thru life not seizing the moments. It's hard to not send mixed signals.. With a lot of work and realizing that you only live once, it's totally worth it...
Sunday, August 5, 2012
PDA (public display of affection)
I was seriously thinking about this subject... I guess a little bit more now than before... I have come to the realization that a lot of us don't show public displays of affection or PDA to those that we love.. I look at my surroundings and see people texting instead of holding hands, kissing, hugging, looking into each others eyes, etc.. What happened to being close to the person that you are in love with or care for?? Is it wrong to hug, kiss, hold hands in public?? What are we afraid of?? Are we that worried about what others will say or think?? In all honesty, who cares!!! This world needs more PDA!! If we took the time to show more affection, maybe relationships would last longer..
It bothers me that we just sit there and not show any affection... We start relationships with no intent on showing our feelings.. Is that even possible?? Call me old school... But I totally love to feel that human touch!! It's so important.. When you have a bad day, and you can share that with someone, they can hug you or let you cry on their shoulder it's so worth it..... When you are able to be yourself and show how you feel in public to the person that you are with, it makes them feel important.. At the same time, you feel great... When all your affection is reciprocated, it's the best feeling in the world... I try as much as I can to show affection.. Even if it's in the smallest way... It make a world of difference to the people in your life...
To have PDA, you just can't wish for it to happen.. You need to make a conscience effort...You will see how those around you will feel loved and cared about.. It's great to see people showing affection.. Everyone needs to know and feel loved... If not, they don't know that you truly care.. So, put the phones down and actually look into their eyes, hold their hand, and make sure that they know how you truly feel... Let's all have a great month of awesome PDA.....
It bothers me that we just sit there and not show any affection... We start relationships with no intent on showing our feelings.. Is that even possible?? Call me old school... But I totally love to feel that human touch!! It's so important.. When you have a bad day, and you can share that with someone, they can hug you or let you cry on their shoulder it's so worth it..... When you are able to be yourself and show how you feel in public to the person that you are with, it makes them feel important.. At the same time, you feel great... When all your affection is reciprocated, it's the best feeling in the world... I try as much as I can to show affection.. Even if it's in the smallest way... It make a world of difference to the people in your life...
To have PDA, you just can't wish for it to happen.. You need to make a conscience effort...You will see how those around you will feel loved and cared about.. It's great to see people showing affection.. Everyone needs to know and feel loved... If not, they don't know that you truly care.. So, put the phones down and actually look into their eyes, hold their hand, and make sure that they know how you truly feel... Let's all have a great month of awesome PDA.....
Wednesday, August 1, 2012
Respect
Respect is something that is earned and not just given.. That type of reasoning has been instilled in us since the dawn of time. There are many instances where respect is earned.. It can be with your children, your family, your job, your friends/acquaintances and many others. Sometimes, people disrespect us whether they are speaking to us or acting in a certain manner. If you feel that disrespecting people is correct, then you must be lacking something in your life...
When we were kids, our parents taught us to respect our elders.. We would look at them like they are crazy... They were trying to teach us that we need to respect those that are older and know a lot more than we ever would.. We also teach our kids to respect those that have authority.. Unfortunately, now a days, all that has gone down the wayside.. Kids as well as adults disrespect others like it's going out of style.. I sometimes wonder where did we learn that we should act that way... It's a difficult world that we live in and it's even harder when we realize that we have lost respect for a lot of people...
Sometimes, the situations that we are in make it difficult to respect others.. We really need to make a conscience effort to break that trend.. We need to respect others, the same way we like to be respected. If you feel that you have been disrespected, you need to take a minute, get some composure and remember that maybe that person is ignorant.. That is why they feel that they need to disrespect you.. Respect is the most important thing that you can give someone..
When we were kids, our parents taught us to respect our elders.. We would look at them like they are crazy... They were trying to teach us that we need to respect those that are older and know a lot more than we ever would.. We also teach our kids to respect those that have authority.. Unfortunately, now a days, all that has gone down the wayside.. Kids as well as adults disrespect others like it's going out of style.. I sometimes wonder where did we learn that we should act that way... It's a difficult world that we live in and it's even harder when we realize that we have lost respect for a lot of people...
Sometimes, the situations that we are in make it difficult to respect others.. We really need to make a conscience effort to break that trend.. We need to respect others, the same way we like to be respected. If you feel that you have been disrespected, you need to take a minute, get some composure and remember that maybe that person is ignorant.. That is why they feel that they need to disrespect you.. Respect is the most important thing that you can give someone..
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